Melancholy can be deeply beautiful and creative…
“Always keep in mind that in the nature of melancholy, that it’s so important to be able to protect your aura. Any individual who suffers from melancholy must be able to protect their aura when they go down, when they’re sad.
The most damaging thing to an individual when they are sad is to have somebody come up to them and say, “What is the matter?” You would think that that’s really kind of sweet and nice, concerned, best intentioned, loving, friendly. All of that stuff, it is not true. You see, the moment you say to somebody who is melancholic, “What is the matter?” is the moment they make up a reason. And the moment they make up a reason, they’re identified with it and their melancholy instantly becomes depression.
This is one of the most common things in the upbringing of melancholic children or emotional children, that their parents become very uncomfortable with their emotional child being down or their melancholic child being sad. Not only is the parent uncomfortable with it, but depending on the design, they may be deeply affected by it.
The melancholy, the sadness being lived out twice as strongly by the parent, or the emotional down being lived out by the parent, and then of course the parent is under pressure to eliminate that. And so they want to make the child happy in order not to be unhappy themselves because they’ve fallen in to the conditioning of their child. And then they get their child to make up reasons and when the reasons aren’t good enough, and when their reasons and answers aren’t good enough, and they hire a therapist to make up the reasons, and the psychologist to make up the reasons, it goes on and on and on—and there’s nothing wrong with the child.
By that time there is. No question about that. Welcome to the age of Prozac. The reality is that the moment you ask them is the moment you’re telling them something very basic. You’re saying to them you’re sick. You’ve got a problem because you’re unhappy and we’re going to fix it, whether you like it or not because there’s something wrong with you.
All individuals know the hypocrisy of a happy life. There is no such thing. There is life. Whether it’s happy or not, good or not, right or not is really not the point. That’s all Maia. It’s just life. So protect your children who are emotional and protect your children who are individual and protect them by not being so damn sensitive to their discomfort. Let them live out their discomfort and encourage them to see that you recognize there is nothing wrong with that. “Oh, you’re sad today. Yeah, so what? Why don’t you go do something creative. It’ll be good for you.” Don’t turn that into, “Oh, you’re sad today, let me make you happy.”
Awareness does wonders for the upbringing of children. It does wonders. Not only that, it takes all the guilt trip out of the parent. You don’t have to feel bad that your baby doesn’t smile all the time. It’s okay.”
-Ra Uru Hu